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Sleeping in the bed with baby

edited August 2018 in Growth & Parenting
Hi all. I have a 8 month old baby girl. She sleeps in the bed with my wife, myself and two dogs. I am terrified I’m going to roll on her in the middle of the night. But she refuses to sleep in her bed at night. We tried a swaddle that her arms are free because I’m afraid to leave her arms in at night. How safe is it to swaddle at this age? The swaddle only works with arms in. She feels like we are holding her still so she sleeps. She sleeps a few hours at daycare but if she’s with us all day she sleeps so much more. What do I do? Can I hear some of your stories? Do you still sleep with your baby? Do you still swaddle at an older age?

Also I’m not sure if this post belongs in this section.


  • Q: Is it safe to let my baby sleep in my bed?

    A: While the American Academy of Pediatrics and other children’s health groups advise against co-sleeping (especially for babies under 1), we know it’s a common practice for many families, especially for breastfeeding moms who can feed their babies more easily this way. But co-sleeping has serious risks for your baby, including suffocation from pillows, sheets, and blankets; the chance that you or your husband can roll over onto your baby; or the possibility that your baby can fall out off the bed during the night. For a safer option, many parents prefer using a co-sleeper (it’s basically like a play yard that attaches to your bed), which allows your baby to have his own safe sleeping space while still being right within arms’ reach. But if you do opt to sleep in the same bed as your baby, following these steps can make it safer:

    - Never leave your baby unattended in your bed.- Have your baby sleep in the middle of the bed, between parents.- Don’t co-sleep after drinking alcohol or while using sleeping pills or other medications, like antihistamines, that can make you extra-drowsy.- Keep extra pillows, comforters, quilts, and other plush items off the bed.- Don’t place your baby on a pillow and be sure the sheets or blanket do not cover his head.- Make sure your bedding fits the mattress snugly.- Make sure your headboard and footboard don’t have openings or cutouts that could trap your baby.- Never sleep with baby in a waterbed.

    In addition to the safety issues involved, it’s also important to consider that regularly co-sleeping can establish a pattern that can be tough to break down the road. We’ve known many a 3-year-old who still climbs into Mommy and Daddy’s bed every night.
  • My baby never slept well (especially through the night) until I started using the website >>SleepBaby.org<< - that website has been by far one of the best things I’ve ever got my hands on to get him to fall asleep quickly. Best time is 45 seconds from awake to asleep! Can’t imagine life without it! I heard about it through a kindergarten teacher who uses it to put to sleep a group of 30 children. Check it out! >>SleepBaby.org<< - Good Luck!!!

  • My baby didn't want to sleep at all, I thought he would never stop crying.I had to make a compromise .. we sleep in the same bed .. I could not stand it anymore, I was constantly frustrated, .. now we are in the same bed and the situation is improved and I am not worried at all.. Kids grow up quickly and they will overcome it.

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